A lot of people like to play it cool when it comes to their online personas. The nature of social media makes it all too enticing to enhance aspects of our lives that may be lacking or imperfect. I wonder, how many people fall prey to comparing themselves to others because of Facebook?
Going on Facebook for any length of time used to make me really depressed afterwards. There I was, looking at people’s darling kids and ever in-love spouses, their exotic vacations and fancy dinners out. In comparison, I felt very . . . “blah.” Sure, there are probably people who love every second of their radical lives, but I bet it’s not as common as Facebook would have me believe.
It’s important to me to be authentic on the web and to be perceived as authentic by my readers. I did my time in the prison that is pretentiousness, trying to be someone I was not and hoping no one would find out that I was not impervious to life’s setbacks and annoyances. It’s exhausting!
Even more exhausting is comparing oneself to others. Go on Facebook, and just try to measure up! When so many people are presenting their lives as flawless, you can’t win. If that’s not depressing, I don’t know what is.
I can’t bear to look at my “feed” on Facebook because I am just too prone to indulge in self-loathing as I look at all the wonderful things that happen to other people. I’m kind of the same way on the internet as I am in “real life” – I mind my own business and try not to worry too much about what others might think of me. I believe that formula is my key to authenticity right now.